When one makes a promise, you sure as hell have to keep it.
In all these months I’ve been ranting or writing about random stuff, I honestly forgot one point to mention and it pretty much concerns the guys. Believe me, I’m no sexist. It’s just that us girls deserve way more than what guys take us for, so heads up on what I say and please don’t judge.
A few months back, I got in contact with a friend (let’s call him Kyouya) whom I haven’t talk to in years. He was someone I was quite fond of but getting in contact with him was a bit of a pain. I mean sure there are cellphones and emails and facebook or whatever form of social media that could keep us in contact but I was never one for those things in the past. I mean, we were in the same school and all, just in different grades (although we were the same age). Why bother using technology to talk to the person if he’s just right there? My phone was there for easy contact with my parents, social media just for the sake of easier contact with people I didn’t have numbers to. Call it a minor necessity if you have to.
Well that was all in the past though. I was kid, I’d prioritize going out and have fun with the kids in the neighborhood. Well enough about me. Anyways, Kyouya was the same as me- probably worse. He’d barely check or even touch his Facebook, didn’t actually think a phone would be necessary. He was someone who was hard to get in contact with. You could say that was one of the main reasons we never stayed in contact after he transferred schools in the middle of my first year in high school. I was honestly surprised when he just randomly sent me a message on Facebook just to say hi.
Sure I was happy, I mean, who wouldn’t? Kyouya was pretty much like a brother to me all those years ago and after who-knows-how-long of not staying in contact, he remembered me and sent me a message. So after catching up and exchanging cellphone numbers and all, he invited me to meet up at a nearby mall. So we planned everything out. Making sure we both had that day free and that we didn’t have any major exams and whatnot. We were constantly talking. After school, during breaks, on weekends. He’d call every so often and we’d send each other a text if we were busy at the moment. There were barely any days we didn’t actually talk to each other. Honestly, we’d talk about everything, even the clothes we’d wear on the day we’d meet.
And thus the much awaited day came. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t a date but a friendly outing. I’m not in denial either. I liked Swiss, remember? Kyouya also had someone he likes and might I add he talks about her a lot. And if you think I’m lying, he actually has a photo of her in his wallet and we’d accidentally met her on our little trip to the mall so pretty much I was acquainted with her. Anyways, when I met up with Kyouya, he seemed like a whole different person. He was taller and called me tiny (I’m not tiny! It’s not my fault he suddenly grew, stupid hormones). His voice was deeper and he seemed much more mature than the last time I saw him. Believe me when I say mature, he was this hyperactive brat in the past, it seemed impossible that the same boy was standing right in front me at that moment being all nice and mature and whatnot.
Okay so we didn’t know what we actually wanted to do so we ended up walking around the mall, telling each other random stories about what we missed (like we don’t do that all the time) until we settled down at a cafe. So after going through hard decisions of which cake was better, it was finally time to order. I raised my hand to get the waiter’s attention but unfortunately nobody was noticing me, so then Kyouya being him and all did that for me and placed my order (he didn’t actually order anything since we passed by a fast food chain since he was in the mood for burgers, well that was him though). So yeah, I have to confess I was a wee bit late before we met so I let him do the one thing I didn’t want him to do near me as payment. Smoke. Yes, he smokes, unfortunately. I flipped out on him when he confessed that. I mean sure it was pretty normal for some teenagers to learn how to drink but he drinks and smokes and he does it on a regular basis, although he did defended himself and claimed it was just one stick a day or something like that. So when I got my order and started eating, he excused himself to go and talk to a friend outside the cafe while he smoked- well not before stealing some of my drink and cake.
So I guess you guys are think something along the lines of why would you claim me to be a sexist when the guy himself was quite, if not perfect, gentleman? Here’s when things got on my bad side, so after he finished doing his business he returned inside the cafe and suddenly told me he’s gonna meet up with his friends after I finish eating. Okay, wrong move bro but it’s been awhile since the last time we met so didn’t want to act all bitchy about it and said okay, besides, I was going to stay in the mall for quite some time since my dad said he’ll be picking me up. After finishing my little meal, we said our goodbyes and then he said he’ll meet up with me after a few hours (and yes, he knew that I’d be going home late). Naturally, I was alone so I had no choice but to find a way to amuse myself while I wait. Thus I went straight to the bookstore, bought a book (House of Hades by Rick Riordan) I’ve been dying to read for a while now, a mechanical pencil and a bookmark. After my purchase, I went to the most quiet part of the mall to enjoy reading the book and to past time. Several hours passed and I checked my phone once in a while but I never got a call, not even a text, from him. And it was passed the time he promise to get in contact with me too, heck it was almost time my dad said he would arrive. I went to places he would most probably be found, but then I got tired and ended up calling him. Oh guess what? He left. He left with his friends to go out and party and he never even thought of getting in contact with me. Great isn’t it? I was pissed, so incredibly pissed. It’s common etiquette to get in contact with the person you made plans with if couldn’t make it. We planned the meet up for weeks then suddenly leaves me hanging, making a fool out of myself, just because he was suddenly invited to a party. He didn’t even contact me at all the day after. Seriously?
So yeah that happened, but that’s not all. Last month I just really wanted to get out of the house so I ended up getting in contact with Kyouya and another friend (remember Annabeth? If not click here) we both knew, made plans to meet up and BAM! Here comes the day. I met up with Annabeth in the morning, went to fast food chain for lunch but then we a few more hours to kill before meeting up with Kyouya so we ended up going to Cereal’s house (don’t remember him? Click here). Then after that Kyouya called and said he’s on his way to our meet up place and so me and Annabeth said our goodbyes and went to the said place. So since Annabeth hasn’t actually seen Kyouya since he transferred schools, I let them catch up a bit while I go order some milktea. I actually had my own little revenge as well. Since I still had the grudge of being ditched the first time around, I went ahead and rubbed that in his face while he apologizes and promises he’ll spend the day with us. And thus we ended up having random conversations and so on and so forth, well set aside the fact Kyouya won’t stop talking to someone on the phone or text someone. Typical meet ups if I might say so my self. After the cafe, we went to me and Annabeth’s school since we needed something and Kyouya hasn’t seen it for years now. A peculiar call caught my attention. Kyouya was on his phone, again. Trust me, I didn’t mean to eavesdrop but the conversation sounded like he was making plans, so yeah. After his call and seeing the school, he told me and Annabeth that he had to go. Thus I was ditched. Yet again. Fun isn’t it?
So ladies, don’t make the same mistake I did. If the guy ditches you, don’t give him a second chance to do it again. If he really, really wants to go out with you, as a friend or lover or whatever, make sure he wouldn’t be idiotic enough to ditch you for his other friends. Or better yet, make him beg. Well if such situation was the same for the guys, I guess you could do the same thing. Anyways I swear if another guy does this to me, that unfortunate soul is gonna get it.
One day I wanna play a guy heart …I want them to Feel how does it feel. Being ditched and taken for granted.